Faulty wiring razed Khun Yai’s home to its concrete base. But within hours, the village headman rallied the community. Neighbours and friends brought gifts, food, and cash to ensure the 83-year-old grandmother gets a new house.
Fire destroys village home.
The village didn’t mourn—they mobilized. This is a story of blawp jai, two-way giving, and how Thai neighbours turn tragedy into togetherness.
Khun Yai’s house burnt down this morning. I heard about it at 10 o’clock when our pooyaibaan (village headman) announced it on the speaker system. He appealed for neighbours and friends to help.
Went round after lunch and found about twenty people sitting in the garden. Only the concrete base and foundations had survived. The roof and teak walls had caved in. Nothing was left of them. The smell of burning was still in the air from two hundred yards away.
Before the pooyaibaan’s broadcast, some neighbours had retrieved the refrigerator. They also moved Khun Yai’s daughter’s car away from the flames. They had to break a window to get in.
I know that Thai communities gather at the home when someone dies. It surprised me they do the same when a house burns down. Thais like to be together in times of trouble or hardship. They call it blawp jai. They get comfort from the contact.
Khun Yai and her family are now living with her younger sister. She lives close by. They will sleep in an already crowded house.
Her daughter and niece were in the garden chatting with all those who had come round. They’ll return to their aunt’s house tonight.
How Did the Fire Start
The house was very old. Our local electricity company believe that the wiring got too hot and caused a fire. They aren’t going to carry out any further investigations.
Very few electrical systems in Thailand are earthed. Thai workers don’t follow the international standard of colour coding. Brown for live, blue for neutral. (IEC standard 60446).
Tourists and residents alike are amused by the tangle of wires seen on the roadside and in homes. Not everyone realises how dangerous they can be.
Villagers Bringing Gifts
Yai and her family thanked everyone for their gifts of money, and for the items of furniture they brought to replace those lost in the fire.
All the gifts received were first taken to the pooyaibaan. One of his staff recorded the donor’s name. They recorded a description of the gift, or the amount of cash given. The list will be read out each evening over the loud-speaker system. I find that a little strange. The Thais accept it. In the West, donors’ names would not be made public.
Because corruption is endemic in Thailand, this system is seen as more transparent. Villagers know that all gifts and cash will go to Khun Yai.
Khun Yai is 83. Everyone calls her Khun Yai, a respectful term for a grandmother. I don’t know her actual name and neither do many others. She didn’t want to leave her home even when the flames got close to her bedroom. She was carried out in a blanket.
Everyone lends a hand wherever they can. Everyone is smiling, nobody is dismal. That wouldn’t help anyway. I understood more today than ever before why the Thais smile. They don’t react with sorrow and sadness when things go wrong.
I Talked to My Bank Manager
Khun Yai had lost money in the fire. I arranged for my bank manager to come round. She estimated the value of the charred banknotes. Many of the smaller denomination notes were intact. The higher valued bills were more charred.
We would have called that bad luck in the West. I found myself smiling with the rest of the Thais. We laughed at the irony of that situation.
I’ll check with the family in a week’s time to make sure the bank has responded.
Been round to Khun Yai’s a few times this week. Around ten neighbours on most days. They just stay for an hour or so. Never the same people.
The monks have donated some blankets. They don’t have money so can’t buy gifts. Instead they have given the family items they received previously from members of the community.
The money the monks get from people making merit goes towards the daily upkeep of the wat. Gifts they receive are given to those in need. Not all temples show the same responsibility to their followers. Questions have been raised about wats such as Dhammakaya. The police uncovered misappropriation of donations there.
An article on Wat Dhammakaya
Under Thailand’s Statute of Limitations, no action on the alleged frauds at the wat can now be taken. Former abbot, Phra Dhammajayo has come out of hiding and is a free man.
https://www.ourbuddhismworld.com/archives/9870
Reciprocal Giving in Thailand
Giving is reciprocated in Thailand. The monks will remind the lay people, at every opportunity, to give generously to the wat. They are returning the help and support that the temple gave them. At funerals, weddings, ordinations, or when they were in difficulty. Good deeds from you will generate good deeds from others.
Giving is two-way. Sam nak bun kun. It would be rare to give something to a neighbour and not get something back later.
The bank has reimbursed Khun Yai for the charred banknotes. The manager also gave her a personal donation from his own pocket.
The house was not insured. Insurers are reluctant to cover teak houses. It’s too expensive for most people. The bank may arrange a mortgage but will insist on insurance cover. I am sure of that. The community will continue to help.
Two hundred thousand baht has been raised so far to rebuild Khun Yai’s house. Most has come from neighbours and other villagers. They pop round during the day or early evening.
The Communal Cooking Pot
There’s a communal cooking pot with very spicy food. It sits on the stove in the garden all day long. People can eat if they are a little hungry. A small donation box sits near the gate. The pooyaibaan had requested a donation from local government.
Giving is two-way. Sam nak bun kun. It would be rare to give something to a neighbour and not get something back later.
The bank has reimbursed Khun Yai for the charred banknotes. The manager also gave her a personal donation from her own pocket.
The house was not insured. Insurers are reluctant to cover teak houses. It’s so expensive for most people. The bank may arrange a mortgage but will insist on insurance cover. I am sure of that. The community will continue to help.
Two hundred thousand baht has been raised so far to rebuild Khun Yai’s house. Most has come from neighbours and other villagers. They pop round during the day or early evening.
Ceremony for the New House
Pillars for the new house were delivered today. The construction firm gave a 10% discount. A local farmer has levelled the land with his tractor.
Now that the building can start, one of the village elders arrived. He officiates at funerals and house warmings. He performed a simple but moving ceremony on the land. This is where the first pillar will be placed.
He places a small tray of earth lined with banana leaves on the ground. He sets several incense sticks in it. After lighting them, he prays for good luck. He prays for the building of the new home and those who will live there.
So many people turn up each day. They chat about everything under the sun. They don’t dwell on the misfortune. All will help at some stage during the build. Khun Yai’s grand-daughter replaced the bandages on her legs. Neighbours prepared some food while she did that.
They were there to show support. They wanted to be together as a community rather than staying home. Strangers might have thought it was simply a garden party.
I know that Thai communities gather at a home when someone dies. It surprised me that they do the same when a house burns down. Thais like to be together in times of trouble or hardship, they call it blawp jai. They get comfort from the contact.
Khun Yai and her family are now living with her younger sister who lives close by. They will sleep in an already crowded house.
Her daughter and niece were in the garden chatting with all those who had come round. They’ll return to their aunt’s house tonight.
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